When Universes Collide

by a stylized hysteria on May 25, 2012

in Random

Earlier this week I had my annual review at my day job. It went well (thank you for asking!) but my boss said something that surprised me. I’m a bit of an introvert, and lucky me, my job requires loads (and loads) of meeting with people where I’m expected to speak up. This is part of the reason why I sometimes go days without posting outfit pics – my meeting clothes are generally quite boring and safe. She told me that on the days I dress up and wear clothes that show my personality, I am visibly more confident and engaging, and she encouraged me do so more often. I was surprised, because even though I know I feel better when I’m wearing something I like (versus a basic suit for VIP meetings) I never realized it was a drastic enough for other people to notice. I’ve tried to maintain a clear line between my day job and this other universe where I live, breath, and sleep fashion. But I’m realizing I can’t suppress my need to express myself and my style; whether I like it or not, it comes through.

I know I’m not the only one who struggles with this. A friend of mine who also have a fairly conservative job, has often spoken about how her inability to wear what makes her comfortable and confident makes the workday that much worse. Now, I’m not suggesting going into work Monday morning with a purple mohawk or your favorite sequined miniskirt. But the effort of trying to fit in and keep your passions hidden by erasing your individuality might be affecting your work (and stress level) more than you realize. If Bill Cunningham is right and fashion is the armor to survive everyday life, maybe it should be a priority to arm yourself with what makes you feel best.

 

 

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  • Liana

    Wow! That’s an awesome bonus to a good review. I could never deal with dress codes well – either to buttoned up or they expected me to wear more makeup (women-centric PR firm). One of the many reasons why I’ve always ended up working for myself. 

  • http://www.mpchouchou.com/ Noelani@MonPetitChouChou

    Your boss is fabulous- it’s rare that you find someone who is savvy enough to recognize that clothes can make the woman, but supports your choices. I have had more bosses than I care to name who have criticized my office clothes for the worse, and I always errr on the side of caution. And congrats on the links a la mode shout out- well deserved my friend!

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  • http://www.morganvsmorgan.com/ Morganvsmorgan

    This is a cool post, and I’m glad your boss decided that she wants you to have that freedom in your dressing within the workplace! 

  • Lynsey Eaton

    Pretty much the story of my life…without someone encouraging me to dress in any way other than a suit.  I recently read a study that said exactly what your boss so brilliantly pointed out – when employees dress in a way that makes them feel comfortable and confident (and for some that might be a suit, but for me it certainly isn’t), the more efficient and effective they will be at work.  Something for employers to think about…

    xx

    http://www.law-of-fashion.com

  • http://fashionloveaffairs.com/ Gigi Danielle

    I work in a manufacturing facility where I literally am not allowed to dress the way I want for safety reasons. On top of the fact that I would not want to ruin my wardrobe. But on the special occasions where I dress neatly with accessories and all, I feel like a millions bucks and I’m sure my performance reflects this. Everyone notices when you step it up a little. 

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  • http://thebostonfashionista.com/ Kristen

    A surprising comment in a review, but one I am glad you received! I know there are days when I need to dress pretty conservatively, but I like to wear more “fun” pieces on days I don’t have the big meetings. Maybe I should try to incorporate more things that I like in subtle ways on the “conservative days”…

  • holleighz

    I’m a bit late to reading this, but how incredible that your boss noticed! I definitely exhibit more confidence at work when I wear something that shows off my personality a bit – which is pretty rare.

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  • Fashionstylistka

    A brilliant post, I really struggle with that and my plan is now to start incorporating my personality and fashion interest into workwear. I just dont wanna loose my job over it;) i’m glad to hear i’m not the only one!

  • http://styleseer.blogspot.com/ Lauren@Styleseer

    Clothes definitely affect the way we feel and the way we interact with others.  When I’m wearing something I know looks great and feels comfortable, I am far more self-confident and outgoing.  It’s so interesting that your boss brought this up as part of your review.

    Thanks for an interesting and insightful post!

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  • http://www.facebook.com/ian.bernardinoo Ian Bernardino

    Get fiercer! ;D

    xo, Ian
    http://www.morbidglamour.com 

  • http://www.dresscodehighfashion.com/ DressCode:HighFashion

    Interesting thoughts…I guess it really depends on the job & industry you`re in.

    Best, Jenny

    http://www.dresscodehighfashion.com/

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  • http://brileeo.blogspot.com/ Brianne

    It sounds like you have a cool boss!

    I usually wear fun jewelry to work, but keep my clothes understated.  Its what I like to do on my days off too.

  • chillairandperfume

    This is so interesting! I’m lucky to have a job & internship right now that allow me to dress how I want. I do struggle, though, with the idea that once I become a “real” lawyer in a couple of years, I’ll have to dress much more traditionally conservatively..

    xo,

    Hannah

    http://www.chillairandperfume.blogspot.com

  • http://www.hoggerandco.com Hogger & Co.

    Wow, that’s so interesting that your boss would bring that up and would notice. It would be wonderful to show a side of yourself in your daily wear with just a few touches. Are you gonna do it??

  • http://twitter.com/extraskinny xs

    i’m glad your boss pointed that out to you.  my work’s pretty lenient about the dress code, but everyone dresses pretty casual, so i understand concerns about standing out too much.  but if it clearly affects your interactions positively, i think it’s worth it to bring more of your personality out.  your boards are a great start!

  • Aglimpseofglamour

    i agree 1 million percent with your boss and the topic of this post. working at LV in my dusty black uniform with my hair pinned off my face in a ponytail made me feel soooooo not myself, and made it harder for me to let my personality shine through while selling. i think its definitely helpful to feel like yourself in any situation, especially work, where you spend most of your time! i am looking forward to seeing what you come up with!

    xo
    sami

  • http://www.ladyofashion.blogspot.com/ Ladyofashion

    I do dress a bit more career or conservative for work, but only when I travel quite a bit for work and for presentation days. Otherwise I can wear dressy casual looks … but still being me! Comfort is definitely important. Expressing ourselves through clothing is the wonderful uniqueness that shows our personality. :) Have a lovely weekend and continue to dress confidently!

  • http://leiannoffduty.tumblr.com lei ann

    great post! even i who have my own business, have to tone it down on the days i meet new clients. luckily, i can slowly bring out the more poufy skirts & high heels as clients know me better & they get my personality. stay true to yourself :)

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